Longfellow students practice tolerance, compassion

A Longfellow school band plays a song to honor National Day of Silence

When students at Longfellow Magnet Middle School go to school today, they will spend their first two hours in silence.

While they will be studying, they will not be talking. But they will be learning.

The students will be participating in National Day of Silence, a day devoted to standing up against the teasing and bullying of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning people. The silence symbolically represents all those who have been silenced because of their sexuality.

This will be the third year the middle school in south Berkeley has participated in the international event, according to Patricia Saddler, the principal.

Besides not talking from 9 am to 11 am, the students will be carrying rainbow banners. There will also be sections of each classroom designated as “safe zones,” where GLBT students can go and know they will be safe.

To get the students prepared for the day, Longfellow held successive assemblies on Thursday where students spoke about the importance of being allies to GLBT students, sang songs against intolerance, and watched multi-media presentations.

Many of the speakers were members of Longfellow’s Gay-Straight Alliance,  which is designed “for anyone who wants our school to be a safe or accepting place for everybody,” according to Rosina Keren, a teacher at the school.

A young student named Tiffany stood before an audience of sixth graders and told them how she had been shy and timid in elementary school and was the target of teasing and bullying. Longfellow, she said, was different. It was an accepting place that let her be herself.

“Longfellow actually gave me love,” said Tiffany. “No one actually teased me. So thank you.”
The statistics about the repercussions of bullying are grim, according to slides played in the assembly. There are 100 to 200 teenage suicide attempts made for every successful suicide. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered or questioning students are four times more likely to kill themselves than their straight peers.

“I think it is really important we treat everyone the same and we don’t disrespect anyone for anything,” said a student named Clara.

A student band played a song called “Secrets”, while the words “judged,” “embarrassed,” “overwhelmed,” rejected, and “lonely,’ played on a screen behind them.

Anita Uresti, the mother of Aubrey Uresti, a counseling intern at the school, sewed 250 rainbow flags for the day.

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  • Al

    9 am to 11am.

  • http://www.davosnewbies.com lknobel

    Thanks for spotting that error. It’s been corrected.

  • lauramenard

    This article is so concise and on point that it deserves wide distribution.

    In 1996 BUSD adopted an anti harassment/bullying policy, they dropped the next step the implementation of clear and consistent protocols in response to complaints.
    I was the parent responsible for the policy being adopted and brought forward best practice models on bullying and harassment, including the favored awareness programs. I made a conscious choice to partner with the district rather than proceed with legal action supported by Lamdba . I was hopeful that such an approach would yield greater cultural change; this belief was shared by Lamdba attorneys. We thought given the right tools Berkeley would do well. That assumption has proved incorrect since the culture of school discipline in Berkeley continues to be arbitrary, inconsistent, and unaccountable.
    Just consider this fact alone, that as the parent who worked so long and hard on this critical policy and response plan I have been subjected to harassment and bullying tactics by numerous BUSD staff members. The problem is Berkeley is not tolerance; it is the politics of power.

    “What works to stop bullying”
    Steve Johnson, San Francisco Chronicle December 22, 2010

    We’ve had a year of polarized debate about bullying. On one side we have those who believe the bullying that resulted in the suicide of Rutgers University student Tyler Clementi is a form of anti-gay discrimination and that those who disagree are homophobes. On the other side are those who are convinced that liberals and gay rights groups are advancing some kind of “homosexual agenda” under the guise of an anti-bullying curriculum.

    One thing is clear: We’re not going to stop bullying in our schools until we stop bullying each other over how to address the problem. Let’s make a New Year’s pledge to talk about bullying the way we’d like to see our kids talk to each other. Let’s focus on proven strategies that can accomplish what all people of goodwill want: an end to the harassment of vulnerable children.

    Here’s what we know works to reduce bullying in schools:

    – Educating, not just punishing, the perpetrators
    – Training bystanders to be allies of the victim
    – Not allowing the isolation or taunting of any child for any reason.

    But these simple steps seem not to satisfy those who must fit bullying into their preconceived ideas about what is wrong with American education. They tend to be divided into two camps:
    Camp 1: Bullying is an anti-social, aggressive act by an isolated individual, which should be dealt with as an individual behavioral offense by punishing the bully. The call for more of a systemic response is just an excuse to smuggle a homosexual or other left-wing “tolerance agenda” into the schools.

    Camp 2: Bullying is all about the culture of the school, and school culture is a reflection of intolerance in the larger society. What’s called for is a complete re-socialization of the students through a tolerance curriculum.

    Were there any evidence supporting either of these positions, we might be able to declare which camp is right and then proceed to conquer bullying. But in fact, a long history of research on bullying shows neither is an effective approach.

    Bullies do, indeed, engage in anti-social behavior. They need to be confronted with that behavior and told why it is inappropriate, and they need to experience negative consequences for what they have done.

    But punishing them is not enough. Children need to be told what they should have done instead of bullying, and they need to commit to doing that in the future. Unless aggressive children go through this kind of process, their anti-social behavior will increase rather than decrease.

    By the same token, a strategy of re-socialization is also insufficient. Yes, bullies often reflect the prejudices and intolerance of the larger society. But a re-socialization approach assumes that we can change people and their beliefs in a way that no social science tells us we can do. Most of the anti-bullying programs based on re-socialization have no social science behind them; there’s no valid research that suggests that they are helpful.

    Unlike approaches based on ideology, successful anti-bullying programs are quite practical and concrete: They use anonymous surveys to sample the current climate within the school. Then they go about changing the culture of the school by working primarily on bystander behavior. They make it OK for students to report bullying by altering the notion of what students consider tattling.

    Successful anti-bullying efforts address precursor behaviors to bullying, like exclusion, with rules that children understand – “You can’t say, ‘You can’t play.’ ” And, while good programs do not blame the victims, they do include social skills instruction for children who are picked on to help reduce the chances they will continue to be victimized.

    Most important, successful programs change the bystander behavior of adults. They challenge false beliefs among teachers and parents about the nature of bullying – that being bullied “builds character,” that “boys will be boys.” In short, they make clear that adults must not stand by when bullying takes place.

    None of these components of a successful anti-bullying program is particularly difficult to learn or expensive to implement. What these programs do require, though, is for both camps in the debate to put their ideologies aside long enough to put the proven strategies to work.

    Steve Johnson, a former teacher and principal, is director of character education at Santa Clara University’s Markkula Center for Applied Ethics. He is the creator of the Character-Based Literacy Curriculum, which is widely used in California counties.

  • lauramenard

    edits:

    “The problem in Berkeley is not intolerance; it is the politics of power.”

    typo- Lambda